I wish I could say that because of this week, and all of that togetherness, my baby sister and I are closer than ever, but that wouldn�t be true though.
I�m so sick of drama. Drama, drama, everywhere. Everyone�s mad at each other, and I�m about to go insane. I can�t handle this crap anymore.
This entry is about my sister Renee. See, my sister and I had a long nice weekend. And Saturday morning was spent doing laundry in an excessively hot laundry room but we made the best of it by helping each other out.
Saturday night we went out together and had a pretty nice time, even if Xandor showed up and was a little bit of a buzz kill, because after all, this was supposed to be a night out for me and my sister.
Sunday Tommy and Renee got up pretty early and left before I even woke up so I didn�t have any time to talk things over with her. I didn�t even really get a chance to say goodbye.
The week could�ve ended on a civil note, but I couldn�t leave well enough alone I guess.
She called me yesterday. It was a nice, lazy, relaxing Memorial Day.
I let her have it; I�m ashamed to admit. I told it like it was, and we ended up screaming at each other and the call ended with me hanging up on her.
I love her but she is being so stupid.
I felt a responsibility to be honest with her. And now, she may not speak to me for months. I may have burned our bridge.
I don�t know what will happen, and I�m afraid for her and the kids. I felt like if I didn�t say something to her then I�d be dishonest too, so I did say something.
I guess I need to backtrack here.
A week or so ago when my sister Renee got here, she made it readily apparent by her words that she was talking to Terry again. I was so happy to see her that I guess I ignored that fact and spent the week trying to have fun and not think of him.
As the week went on, that jerks name kept infiltrating a lot of our conversations and I was getting steadily irritated about it.
I hate the guy already, you know? Maybe it�s because I haven�t forgotten the beatings Renee suffered, the various injustices, the ignorant things he did, the threats, etc.
So, that�s 1.
I have a long and pretty accurate memory when it comes to people like him. I file people like him under a-hole and keep it readily accessible.
As if I wasn�t aggravated about Terry�s name coming up over and over, we dealt with Renee�s insecurity and the fact that she was pretty rude to my neighbor Romy for no reason. Romy is a nice person who is very knowledgeable about life, because at her age, she�d better be, and she made conversation with my sister and me. Of course Renee made little sarcastic comments about certain things, and Romy would just glance at me with a questioning glare. All I could do at the time was shrug my shoulders. What can I say about Renee that isn�t already obvious?
I was also mad that Renee made jokes about popping sleeping pills, muscle relaxers and mixing Vicodin and alcohol, which is expressly forbidden on the warning label for Vicodin. I�m assuming at the very least that one could suffer liver damage.
I was very disturbed that Renee would joke about mixing prescription drugs with alcohol. She seemed way too comfortable with abusing prescription medications. I was really upset when, after her 8th beer Saturday night, she told me she couldn�t feel her face and she�d taken an entire Vicodin too. I couldn�t believe she did that. It scared me badly, that�s 2.
Then, the entire week Renee was real short-tempered with the kids. Maybe girlfriend needed this vacation more than I knew. But she was making things tense when she was jumping on the kids for relatively small things. Hey, they�re her kids. But the baby was only 10 months old, had a cold and was teething, and she was so snappy with him sometimes. I happen to have caught that little guy�s cold, and if what I have is anything like what he had, the poor little man must�ve been miserable the entire week.
Thank God for small favors, I did find this homeopathic remedy for teething, called �Teething Tablets� which alleviate the pain, redness and swelling associated with cutting teeth. I found it at Walgreen�s.
That helped the baby a lot. I wish I would�ve thought to check out a bottle of �Simply Stuffy� while I was at Walgreen�s, but I forgot. There was so much going on every night of the week that I didn�t get much done.
The kids were just being kids but she jumped all over them for every little thing. It was pretty embarrassing for them.
So, then we have Renee�s complaining about this, or that, always something, in addition to treating Tommy like an indentured servant, making him run all her errands, regularly berating him and constantly peppering their conversation with sarcastic comments. And she didn�t mind doing it in front of the kids, which I KNOW for a fact is unhealthy. That�s 3.
Like I wasn�t sick of the subject, Renee also told me that Terry knew he was wrong and felt that I was right to be mad at him. She said numerous times that he knew he was wrong. Good for him, but it didn�t erase what he did. So her little statement was the understatement of the year.
I hate that pig. I think he�s a home wrecker. I think Renee�s too stupid to see that.
He�s an ex-felon, a meth-crank-pot user, an alcoholic, a pill popper, a Klu-Klux-Klan member (oh, yeah, he�s a real winner), and he�s already beaten her up a few times.
He�s threatened her and followed through on the threats.
He�s spent a year in jail for beating her up.
And yet, she lets him back in over and over.
So now it�s time for me to start discussing with Tommy, Renee�s soon to be ex-husband, that Tommy should take the kids and leave and let Renee live her life with Terry.
I would help Tommy. I know he�s no angel, but he is a good dad to his kids. I think that Renee has disrespected him on so many levels and yet he continues to be there for her when she�s broke or scared. Tommy loved her when she was 300 pounds and loved her when she was 135 pounds and still loves her now at 175.
He works 5 days a week and sometimes does overtime so that Renee could have the �extra� things she needs.
I myself don�t find Tommy in the least bit attractive, but I�m very sure that someone out there will accept Tommy, 3 kids and all. He�s so worried about Renee that he continues to do whatever she asks him to do and he�s always getting hurt. I don�t think he�s willing to move on with his life until they divorce.
Now, Renee chews Tommy up and down. But Terry could probably slap one of her kids and now I�m pretty sure Renee wouldn�t say anything.
I love my sister very much, but I love my nieces and nephew too. Renee�s indifferences to Terry�s faults could very well end up causing the children harm.
So, now I have to think about doing something I really don�t want to do because it will certainly negatively impact my relationship with my sister. It has to be done though, and I must formulate a plan.
See, when my sister called me on Monday, she told me that before they�d gotten home, Tommy had mentioned he wanted to go spend some time with his friends. Renee said, �Good, because I wanted Terry to come over and spend some time..�
Why would she tell anyone that? That irritated me. How disrespectful! I was horrified that she�s say something so rude. I can�t believe this selfish, mean, rude person is my sister.
Then, I guess after they got home, Tommy had called from his friend�s house and said, �I�m coming home. Tell that dude (Terry) to leave.� Tommy doesn�t feel he has anything to say to Terry, and I agree!
Renee told Tommy that she didn�t have to tell Terry nothing about leaving, which I felt was pretty ignorant.
Um. Renee�s still married to Tommy and still living with Tommy. Does anyone else see a problem with the way she�s living her life? Why not pay what�s left in the divorce and get it over with?
I�m wondering too if Renee thought that any of this could be confusing to her kids.
She got mad because I told her that she was putting Terry before her kids, which infuriated her. I brought up his alcohol and drug abuse, which she then fumed that she had told me that �in confidence� and that I wasn�t supposed to �throw that back� in her face.
Jeez.
She told me �I miss you.�
I told her, �I miss you too�.
She said, �I wish you were here��
I told her, �I don�t wish I was there!� She asked why, and I told her that if I was there, I�d be beating Terry�s red a$$.
She said, �Why? Terry�s not done anything wrong.�
�He�s hit you!� I told her.
�Not recently!� She yelled.
�Oh, and that makes it okay..� I steamed. �Renee, if you don�t have self-respect for you, at least have it for your kids.�
�My kids�blah..blah..blah.� She whined.
�I don�t want to hear anymore,� I said.
�Well, I could just be lying dead in a ditch somewhere and you wouldn�t know. I�m not telling you another thing�.�
I hung up on her.
What more did I need to hear? More excuses? When I asked her why she was taking up for Terry and lobbying for his cause, she didn�t have a solid reason why she felt the need to defend him. Everybody hates Terry, but Renee doesn�t know why. Oh, I think she knows. But she�s too �in love� with her �soul mate� (yep, her words) to care. I think she�s been reading too many romance novels and that ignorance is going to cost her a lot in the long run. Maybe even her kids.
8:46 am - June 01, 2004
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