I have a headache, but hey, at least my depression has FINALLY lifted after 4 months. I can�t believe it. I have more energy, I�m more at ease, and I can relax. Aaah.
I�m not trying to be mean Salsalita, but I know one man who needs someone to show him what it�s like to be picked on. He gets away with a lot of crap because of who he is.
On Friday, Mr. Moody really showed his butt. I don�t appreciate the fact that he treats Salsalita like some disposable property by kicking her out in the middle of the night with her little boy; especially over some stupid crap. I don�t appreciate the fact that he destroys things that are of sentimental value to the both of them because he�s mad. I don�t care for the stupid screaming temper tantrums. I don�t appreciate the way he yells at her and I really don�t appreciate the brutal and cruel things he says to her about HER son!
Her son! The child that is her everything! The person that was there before Mr. Moody ever was and has way more right to his mother than Mr. Moody. This poor child is the 2nd victim here.
Jake�s father has every right to know what�s going on. You did right by telling him. I mean, if someone was scaring the crap out of Jake at Hoe�s house, wouldn�t you want to know? So what if Jake�s missed some of Mr. Moody�s more stellar temper tantrums? One day, he�s going to see something he shouldn�t. If someone were criticizing Hoe about Jacob, wouldn�t you want to know? Don�t feel bad for telling him because really, he should know what�s impacting his son. Think about how you�d feel if Hoe hid something like this from you.
Our children are smarter than we think. They pick up on this stuff. Yeah, he�s little now, but he�s not going to be little forever. He will start noticing things in the future, Salsalita.
Who does Mr. Moody think he is? Where does he get off punishing you for not doing things HIS way? Who is he? The grim reaper? The angel of death?
And why does he think he has anyone fooled? You know what, Lisa can go back to him and make up with him because that is her choice. However, I do not have to forgive and forget. I got all the time in the world to be mad at him. I�ll be mad for you Lisa. You know I�m good at it.
I�m sorry; maybe it just offends me that he thinks he can get away with anything because he can always buy his way out of it, or sweet talk his way out of it. I�m also offended that he accuses Lisa of everything he�s guilty of.
That�s called: projection. You know, where you project your faults onto another person instead of admitting that they are actually your faults. Doug is projecting his lack of respect onto Lisa. Doug is projecting his attitude problem at Lisa. And you�re probably right Lisa. He probably is punishing you for everything that�s ever gone wrong in his life.
Where�s the respect, honesty and love here? Is this supposed to be the honeymoon period? If the first year is the worst, I don�t want to see the next few. You two may not live to see it. I seem to remember watching that movie �The War of the Roses�.
Is this any way to live? With a man that�s got PMS 5 days out of the week and 320 days of the year? When are you going to get some attention? Far as I can see, it�s always on Mr. Moody and his moods.
I�m mad. Mr. Moody makes it my business when I�m on the phone with her and she�s scared! It is my business. I don�t care if he knows she�s on the phone with me or not. The fact is, she�s my friend and I�m hearing this asshole scream at her and I�m sitting here helplessly hoping he doesn�t hit her.
I don�t think he feels a bit of responsibility for these episodes.
Here�s the steps: Either he is drinking or having withdrawal symptoms when the bad behavior begins.
1) Doug is griping and complaining
2) Doug griping, complaining, sarcasm (Lisa gets defensive)
3) Doug griping, complaining, sarcasm, and some yelling
4) Doug griping and complaining, sarcasm, yelling, and slamming
5) Doug commits destruction of property and screaming
6) Doug forces ejection of Lisa from the house. Either he tells her to leave or makes it too scary to stay.
7) Lisa is emotionally devastated, but leaves. Doug broods.
8) Lisa tries to figure out where she went wrong.
9) Doug tries to find more ways to blame Lisa. Lisa goes back home.
10) Initial coldness to one another, then he apologizes, again. A new emotional honeymoon commences, a starting over again. Then, he might replace items he destroyed, so in his mind, it erases what he did.
11) Lisa blames herself, or vows to not engage him when she�s mad.
11) Cycle stops for a period of time, but begins again.
He may not mean to, but if you are afraid of a man, maybe you shouldn�t be with him dorky-hontas. I don�t care how much you love him; love yourself and your son for a while. Stop always putting Doug first. You deserve better then he�s giving you. It�s not too late to change your mind. People do it all the time girlfriend. Think about what you are missing out on by dedicating your life to someone who obviously cannot put you first. It�s not your fault he can�t. I really don�t think it�s Doug�s fault either. He has a problem that�s bigger than him, the same way I do. Think about you, for once, because Mr. Moody spends an awful lot of time thinking about himself and you can bet your sweet booty on that.
So, anyway, my sister Melinda and Enrique will be here at 8:01 p.m. tonight. I�m already dreading the airport security and the delays since the airport exit has been closed due to security concerns. I despise the airport already.
Christmas is two days away. Jackie�s driving me nuts about opening some presents. I keep telling her �no� and giving her the look. At least the depression lifted so that I could enjoy the holiday.
10:47 - Monday, Dec. 22, 2003
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