Yesterday was semi-interesting. Jackie found two dead kittens and I thought they were turds. I actually made her walk away from it and hours later found out they were in fact baby kittens. I felt like an ass.
The child support finally came, whew, that $326.00 was a month late, but I�m not caring about that right now since I�m behind in my car payment since I�ve been paying her expenses with my cash. A
I got my paycheck today, it was $1200 or so, but I�m going to be paying rent with that, and the tuition I owe Jackie�s school. Oh, and pay my phone bill and electric. I may have $200.00 left over for gas, a trip to Kansas and back and other incidentals for the next two weeks for Wacky and me. CNN has said that the child tax credit will be mailed out in three installments, mine goes out today. I�m not going to count on it though.
So, the life of a single parent is not glamorous. If you�re under 21 and reading this you might want to consider that I make almost $38,000 a year and pay out almost $700.00 in a normal month or $12,000 on tuition and/or daycare. My car payment is $420.00 a month (insurance included) and my rent is $551.00 a month. Let�s not forget utilities.
If someone who makes what I make has to be frugal, then I�m really pissed when I hear about these guys who have nothing better to do than run around and make babies. And the mother never sees a red cent. And my tax dollars have to help these poor women eke along. Despite whatever you heard, welfare is not really a handout because they make you pay for it in so many ways. Namely: humiliation.
I�m not mad at the parent who�s selflessly raising these children. I�m mad at the parent who thinks that kids raise themselves for FREE.
My friend Salsalita got majorly screwed by her ex-husband Hoe. He tricked her into equal custody so that he wouldn�t have to pay her a dime. And he doesn�t. That bastard.
My mother raised 3 girls with no father paying support.
My friend Kevin is raising two kids alone. The wife ran off with some Hoosier and she left him to work and care for the children alone. The man lives in a run down ramshackle house while she works and parties it up in California. He never sees a dime. He can never find her to get her to pay a dime. Then, she comes back and convinces him she wants to reconcile and makes promises to him and the kids.
Then, she skips town again.
Boyfriend is depressed.
My ex knew that if he didn�t pay me what I thought I deserved, it would be on. I knew chances were very high that he�d go on to his life, continue on, remarry quickly and start a new family. I mean, he�s not hard to figure out. Anyway, I was right. He�s pretty predictable.
Leave: that�s exactly what he did. My daughter doesn�t know why he pays me that pretty decent amount of money every month. She just knows I buy school clothes and tuition and such. I feel lucky because since we�ve been divorced, the support has only been really late a couple of times, and those first two times were because he was hurt in an accident. He ended up in a coma for a month. I would�ve had a heart of stone if I didn�t understand that.
All in all, the money makes up for not having his help. I�ve told him that I�d rather have him here for her than to have his money, that kids need their Dads. But if he can�t be here, for whatever reason, I�ll be glad to take his cash.
Call it what you will.
12:53 p.m. - 2003-07-25
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