I was asked recently what things have irritated me about past dates I�ve had. I will recount these things because I think it�s pretty darn funny what�s happened in my dating experiences.
I will not be happy about:
1) Undeserved bad tipping at restaurants.
2) Chewing with one�s mouth open
3) Being unusually loud and boisterous
4) Treating people bad. Service people, anybody.
5) Threatening to poop on my lawn.
6) Talking to me about your body acne or back hair. Ewww!
7) Bragging, about one�s man parts, job, anything. Be modest.
8) Treating me like crap because I�m a woman.
9) Trying to cop a feel or do anything I�ve not let you know explicitly that you can do.
10) Talking in a derogative way about women.
11) An unusual interest in my daughter, who is a minor.
12) Ignoring of my daughter, who is part of the package.
13) B.O. Enough said.
13) Hinting around about sexual favors, especially when I barely know you.
14) Asking me to commit to you and only you when I don�t know you well, will only convince me not to ever see you again.
15) An uncaring personality wins no points.
16) Agreeing with everything I say makes you seem like a wimp when it�s obvious you disagree about something.
17) Showing up for a date with no money, unless it�s something we already talked about.
Deal breakers:
1) Anger problems.
2) Expecting me to bow down and kiss your butt and serve you.
3) racism
4) Homophobia
5) Religious intolerance
6) Bigotry.
7) Prior sex offenses. Worse, lying about it.
8) Not taking a no for an answer.
9) Stalking of an ex or me in any way.
10) Not letting me have my space.
11) Violence of any kind, unless you are defending me against eminent danger.
12) Drug use.
13) Alcohol abuse.
14) Use of prostitutes, VD or high risk sexual activity.
15) Prison time for anything other than a misdemeanor, like mischief.
16) D.U.I.�s
17) Being a tightwad.
These are things that will cause me to leave and not look back.
It should be obvious I�ve met my share of creeps.
Things that make me happy.
1) Being able to become acclimated to a person in my own time.
2) Being able to be my own person and be independent.
3) Being appreciated for who I am and not for whom someone wants me to be.
4) Acceptance of my rather strange history, family and lifestyle.
5) A guy who becomes friends with me first and doesn�t push me will always have a relationship (at least as friends) as long as we have trust, respect and honesty.
6) A man who�s researched about my life and has tried to learn about what to expect when dealing with a homicide survivor. Log on to brokenspirits.com or murdervictims.com.
7) A man who�s not threatened by what I�m doing in my life.
8) A man that realizes that I�ll never �get over� what happened to me and better, realizes that I�m not weird because of it. A guy who tells me I should move on will get a shoe up his butt and will be drop-kicked out of my life. Get some sensitivity training, will ya?
9) Extremely patient and giving people.
10) A guy who has his own life and interests and doesn�t hinge everything on me. That�s a lot of pressure for one person.
11) A guy who has interest in world issues and culture and art.
12) A person who is always trying to better himself.
13) A person who�s happy to be alive and is happy to have the little blessings he has and appreciates life is my kind of guy.
14) Optimism is great.
15) Realism is also nice. But when I am mad at someone else, I�m looking for you to agree with me, not reason with me. I am not rational when I�m mad. If I�m mad at you, just be honest with me and yourself, and give me time to peel myself off the ceiling.
16) Appropriate interaction with my daughter, if and when you do meet, is a must. No asking her to sit on your lap. That is not allowed.
17) Respect my boundaries and we will be fine.
Girls, have I left anything out? Leave me a note, and I�ll add it to the list!
1:49 pm - March 08, 2006
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