All in all, I had a great weekend. However, I had some stomach issues that put a damper on our activities. All weekend I dealt with heartburn. I haven�t had heartburn like this in a couple of years, since before I started the Prevacid.
No matter, I had fun.
Lisa, Will and I planned to go to Helene Fitzgerald�s, a pub/grill type place on Friday night. However, Lisa drove by the Phoenix and the sign said that Friday night was 80�s night.
When she told me that, I did change my mind. It sounded like a lot of fun.
We went shopping first at Fashion Bug. Lisa found some really cute tops and I found one also. Lisa went ahead and got me the top because I was really watching my money. Awww!
After that, we came home we got ready. Sometime after 8, Lisa took Jacob to his dad�s while I finished putting on my makeup.
And of course, the obligatory pre-club photos:
The Phoenix gets a bad rap. I knew that as soon as we walked in. The place is huge, about 5 times the size of Woody�s. And it was great; there were pub tables as well as regular tables. The neatest thing was the circular bar in the middle of the club. Very nice!
Check out these brave chickies!
The 80�s band was already playing. I admit I was impressed because they even dressed the part. They were wearing punk rock wigs, as well as, for the guys, black shirts with pink ties. It was neat.
Lisa and I got goose bumps listening to some of the songs. Oh, and something snicker-worthy were the barely twenty year old kids out there jamming to the music and most of them were barely a couple of years old in the late 80�s! It�s not like they grew up with the music!
At home, I had drunk a tall glass of mudslide. Maybe that was a big mistake. But at the Phoenix I had a regular White Russian and two frozen ones. (Thanks Lisa!)
I was feeling okay for a little while. We met a few really nice guys, like this cowboy named Kurt:
After about 2 � hours of 80�s music, the fun was starting to wear off. I came to a point where I thought I was going to have an embolism right there if I listened to another song:
But, I was saved. I felt a guy take Lisa�s seat next to me. She was dancing.
Eventually, I turned around to look at him and I felt this electric jolt go through me. At first, I thought he was Jerry D., the hottie I dated in college. Jerry D. I found out is a brother of a famous TV personality in Missouri.
This man, named Rick, might possibly be the most beautiful man I ever met. He has eclipsed Jerry and moved into that slot. I don�t care if I ever talk to the guy again, but meeting him was such an experience. He was such a sweetheart! He told me he had 4 kids, which is incredible and wonderful, and that he was not married, which I take to mean that he is divorced. I don�t hold that against anybody though because I too had married someone for �forever� and it turn out to be, well, �not forever�.
Rick, you are a total babe:
There was a lady sitting next to him, and I swear she was shooting daggers in my direction. I did not want to intrude nor make her mad, so I eventually told him to stop talking to me because of her. He told me that she wouldn�t �do anything like that� but you know, I don�t mess with people that are taken. I don�t even pretend to flirt with a guy in a relationship. It�s just not cool. I have been on the other end of that, being the one cheated on, and I just do not do that to other people.
Plus, I�m not really a threat. She was incredibly thin and nicely built, and I can�t hold a candle to that, so I�m not even going to try.
And this was the nice couple with Rick: Randy and Eva. Aren�t they darling? It was so nice to meet other normal people. There are a lot of freaks in nightclubs! Thanks for letting me take your picture you guys!
We talked for a while but it seemed like the interest died down in time, which was okay by me because I was getting a good laugh out of watching people on the dance floor. I am an avid people watcher.
Eventually though, it got real late, and my stomach was really starting to bother me. And we were all tired, and Will was acting really strangely, so it was time to go.
I said goodbye to Eva, Randy and Rick, and I was gone.
When we got home, I was almost green. I swear. I struggled for an hour not to get sick. I didn�t end up going to bed until about 3 a.m.
It started around 7 a.m. Saturday. The phone. It kept ringing. The fourth time the person called, I groggily answered, thinking it had something to do with Jackie.
It was my brother Joey, who had been calling me for a week and a half! Oops, I�m really bad at returning phone calls. He�s all bright, loud and cheery, and I�m so, well, not, that it was hurting my head.
�What are you doing tomorrow?� He asked me.
Muffle, grumble, muffle. I don�t think I made a bit of sense.
�Lemme call you later when I�m awake, bye.� It didn�t occur to me way later that this was a brother I�ve never met, never talked to and I just basically hung up on him.
Anyway, I went back to sleep. My phone rang again around 8, and I decided that I might as well get the hell up, since obviously the gods felt I should not be recuperating in any way from Friday night. It was Melinda. I didn�t answer because it was too early.
Eventually, I did talk to my brother. He wanted to bring my Dad down on Sunday for Father�s Day. At first I looked around at the mess in my apartment and couldn�t see having it all clean in time, but I said yes anyway.
After that, I went and did laundry. It�s nice to not have to do five loads. I did 3 small ones.
The rest of the day I kind of puttered around the house, cleaning. Oh, and the best thing is that I talked to Uranus� Mom; we�ll call her, Dawna, for about 45 minutes. Ooh, what I found out made me so mad.
Remember all that neutrality I put forth for Jackie when it comes to her Dad? Remember all those times I bit my tongue and smiled because I want her to develop a relationship and opinions of him on her own?
Well, he doesn�t think that way. In fact, not only does he not approve of my parenting, or me but he also voices his opinion in front of our daughter! Does he not know how mentally damaging that is for a child?
Because Jackie is sensitive and has asthma and allergies and is prone to yeast infections and urinary tract infections and has a small bladder, I�m a hypochondriac.
Because Jackie takes 3 different types of medicine for her asthma that works 3 different ways, I�m overmedicating our daughter.
Because I have taught Jackie about respecting her body and other people respecting her body, and role-play with her about stranger danger: I�m paranoid.
Because Jackie knows why not to wander off or run away or just generally be careful: I�m afraid of the world.
Dawna, god bless her, finally pulled him aside and told him �I don�t care what your issue is with Melissa. You and your wife should not be discussing it around Jackie. You should keep it to yourself until you�re alone�.
I was so grateful.
I just found out a lot that I didn�t know. And while I will continue to be neutral for Jackie�s sake when it comes to her Dad, I will not hesitate to put him in his place the next time he makes a comment that she�s spoiled.
His own mother said, �Of course Jackie is going to be demanding of your time. She doesn�t get you 365 days a year! And she was here first! That doesn�t make her spoiled!� I was so glad she said that.
Oh, and his wife is jealous of the attention Jackie gets from her Dad. Grow the hell up, the both of you, is what I say. My ex is an idiot and his wife is insecure! What a great combination. Just don�t let your hang-ups and issues become Jackie�s.
There�s more, but it would take all day to discuss it all. But I am happy and it is confirmed that Jackie is in Oregon on her grandparent�s terms, not her Dad�s. Maybe one day, he�ll figure out it isn�t all about him. The pig. How dare he criticize me about my parenting when he didn�t even see his own daughter for 4 years?
I am so not a man-hater. I love men. They�re beautiful creatures! Like this one:
But I can�t believe I was ever married to that cretin, Uranus.
My adopted ma, Cinders, thinks he suffered brain damage in that logging accident a few years ago. Yes, I think that may be the case.
But it doesn�t excuse his reprehensible behavior.
Oh, and his ma, Dawna, told me what a treasure I am and what a wonderful mother I am. It made me feel so good.
Saturday night, Lisa and me were not sure we were even going out. My stomach had been woozy all day and I was very tired. But you know, in the end, we did end up going to Woody�s.
We had a good time. The regular�s were there.
Lisa and our waitress, Jessie:
We had to leave around 12:30. I was starting to get a really bad headache, migraine strength.
Sunday, I got up around 8. So another night passed where I didn�t get a lot of sleep. I had to run and get my Dad a Father�s Day card. Then, I got a couple of 12 packs of coke.
And I went home, and tidied up. Around 11:30, they all showed up. My brother�s and I look so much alike. When we smile, our eyes look Chinese and sort of disappear!
I made spaghetti, which everyone loved. It was awesome. My brother and me have a lot of strange things in common, which we found out while talking while my Dad took a nap.
I took pictures, but they are on this awesome disposable camera that Lisa bought me, so it�ll be some time before I post those pictures.
They left at 6:30 p.m.
All in all, it was a great weekend.
Once again, I�m very tired.
11:52 am - June 20, 2005
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