Lately, I�ve been too permissive with my daughter, and now it�s come back to bite me in the butt. EVERYTHING, and I do mean EVERYTHING, is a battle lately. I have to tell her 5 times to do something, and who knows if I�ll get distracted or she�ll get distracted and it won�t get done at all. Jackie has never been this kind of child, so I don�t know how to handle this or what to think of it.
Yesterday, after a week and a half of the annoying behavior, which includes my biggest pet peeve (backtalk), I just had it. Now, I make her do what I ask her to. I just stay on her until it gets done, or it won�t, you know?
3 days ago, I just lost it with her. Maybe it wasn�t right to do but I admit I told her if she thought her Dad could parent her better then maybe she should call him. I�m sick and tired of always being the bad guy, while he�s forever good time Daddy. A saint among men. A legend in his own mind. An enigma.
What a load of crap.
As my cousin in Kansas would say, �That�s some bull-honky!�
One of these days, he�s going to have to buck up and be supportive of me. One day�.maybe when he pulls his head out of his wife�s butt�..but I don�t see that day coming any time soon.
I know it�s necessary to stay on kids, so that our children grow up to be well rounded, but I feel like all I ever do is cajole, plead and nag. I�m sick of it.
I�m sick to death of it. Up until recently, Jackie would sometimes help me out around the house. But lately, a task as simple as taking out the trash involves an act of congress, some fairy dust and a wishbone to even get done!
I�m not a bad mother! I don�t know what the problem is. But, if I slack off in any way, Jackie seems to want to take it and run with it. I�ve been had on more than one occasion lately.
And recently, when I was hammering her about the stupid homework issue, she told me I wouldn�t understand. I have cried, begged, pleaded, demanded, bribed her to do her homework and hand it in on time. I help her with it, but she seems to be overwhelmed anyway.
Well, since our parent teacher conference 3 weeks ago, she�s handed in her homework late 3 whole times. This is a first, and I am furious!! This is not acceptable and I�ve told her so. I try to remember every night to check and see if she�s got homework but even I forget. But what�s her excuse? �I�m tired, hungry, sleepy, crabby, had a bad day, my knee hurts, my stomach hurts, my pinky tingles and my nose is friggly�.� and stupid me never knows anymore when she is really sick or if she�s just using it as a ploy to get out of doing something.
I�ve even found her a tutor. But that�s not making a difference either.
But I think I�m on to something. I am just going to have to be a rottweiler about homework and doing what I ask her to. Even if that makes me the meanest, most unpopular mother�oh well.
Part of the problem is that Jackie just hates school. In the 2nd grade! Part of it is the stupid way that they�re doing math, called �The Kentucky Method�. It is way too complicated for 2nd graders. I know this method is to prepare them for advanced math at a younger age, but this is the kind of stuff that makes a child hate school. I don�t think it�s right for an 8 year old to hate school. I didn�t begin to hate school until I was a sophomore in High School, and stopped for a while, and came back when I was a year into college.
Another part of that problem is because she does not have that many friends. This is probably part of the issue. But I talked it over with the teacher and observed her with other kids and it is apparent that kids do like her. I don�t know why they�re not friends with her.
Jackie has a low self-esteem. It frustrates me to no end when Jackie expresses that she doesn�t like how she looks, or dresses and even cuts down her abilities on things she does do well like art or math.
I try to show her in many ways that I cherish how sweet, kind and loyal she is. I compliment her on her unique artwork and I praise her good manners and kindness.
I encourage her to talk to me. But for some reason Jackie feels she cannot really talk to me and this is like a knife in my heart. Lately, I�ve heard it a lot that I�ll �never understand�.
If this is how she feels at 8 then I am definitely going to have a problem when she�s older.
She doesn�t even get it that I live to see her smile and giggle. I live to see her smile when she gets up in the morning. I live to make her happy.
She�s not happy. Sigh����.
She�s definitely a �glass half-empty� kind of girl.
I�m sad about that, however, this doesn�t excuse her reprehensible behavior the past few weeks. I cannot indulge her in this behavior or she will walk all over me.
Damn kids don�t come with an instruction book.
I am just so tired.
10:54 am - May 04, 2005
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